Guest Post- Life Lessons You Can Learn From Travelling

Today’s guest post is courtesy of writer and entrepreneur, William Bourn. Thanks, William! 🙂 

Buddha says: there is only one mistake one can make along the road to truth; not going along the way, and not starting. But let’s make room for one more along this road: not looking at what’s right in front of you.

When people are under pressure or stress, they tend to shut other people out. History class was the worst for me. My teacher would always make us write essays, and I’d do my essay at home, but then suddenly I realized that everything I wrote was all wrong, and I’d get all stressed about it since tomorrow is the deadline, and then I’d start yelling at my brother whenever he tried to pester me. Well, that may be a bit milder than the usual situations, but the point is when we become stressed, we tend to vent it out our frustrations on other people.  Actions like this stick with every aspect of their life. They become distrustful of other people. They then treat the present world as a one painful yesterday. It may help them get through the feeling of confusion and pain at the time, but they will realize later on how it affects their life decisions.

You can spot these people from a mile away because of their irrational statements. They say things like, “people can’t be trusted” or “people are idiots”. These are the roots of prejudice.

How can you possibly feel hostility towards somebody who loves his community and reaches out to visitors? The only way to do this is by failing to see the person for who they are and only seeing the shadow of a past enemy instead.

Travelling and communicating with the world are the solutions to these problems. We were raised knowing certain traditions and norms, and when we come across people who go beyond or below the standards, we develop hatred. By traveling, we become exposed to different cultures and people, which broadens our understanding of different kinds of people. It’s the way to cure our prejudices.

There are tons of life lessons we can learn from traveling, and since I’m pretty fond of traveling from one place to another, let me show you some of my favorites:

It’s okay not to plan everything

We’re used to planning things out before we execute them. We need to plan our weekend. We need to plan for our future. We need to plan who to marry. We need to plan which clothes to wear. We need to plan when to go to the dentist.

Planning has already become an important aspect of our life that attempting to do something unplanned seems frightening. But when we travel we realize that no matter how hard we try to plan everything, things won’t always work out the way we want it to.

I once booked a plane ticket to California to attend our family reunion. All my cousins were there. I was really looking forward to talking with them again after we’ve been separated for five years. I booked the ticket three days early. When the big day came, I was so excited to step out of the car and board in the airport, but as I did one of the employees told me that my flight was delayed and will resume the following week. Needless to say, I wasn’t able to come to the reunion. What’s the moral of the story? Things won’t always go the way it’s planned. That doesn’t mean you stop caring about everything that happens to you. It just means, do your best to prepare, but if you left out some details, that’s okay too. Things will just fall in its proper place.

It’s okay to be lost

Everyone who knows me knows how bad I am at taking directions. I’ve been commuting to my new workplace for a couple of months now, but there are still times when I find myself lost in the middle of nowhere. And then I have to ask people where I am just so I can maneuver my way back to the office. When you’re in the city having poor navigation skills is a bad thing. You can’t get to places. Even if you did, it’s going to be a while before you get there. But when you’re a traveler, you know that getting lost is just another new opportunity to explore and learn new things. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself for your lack of direction sense, just embrace it. Take the time to look around and appreciate nature’s beauty.

There are times in our life when we feel lost. We don’t know if we’re on the right track. What do I mean? Well, there are times that we feel like we’ve made wrong decisions, taking us to places we shouldn’t be, but instead of hating ourselves for our mistakes, we should just enjoy the ride and see what happens next. We can’t avoid mistakes, but we can learn from them.

Talk to strangers

Contrary to what our parents taught us, talk to strangers. The truth is, we can be a bit choosy when it comes to people. We only want to talk to people who we think are a lot like us, and ignore the ones who we think are uncool. And oftentimes, this brings us to a situation where we feel like everyone’s up to no good. We’ve all been there a couple of times: our best friend betraying us, boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on us, a workmate working towards ruining us. But it’s only because we don’t look beyond our gates.

We get to meet amazing people when we talk to strangers. There are people who think that they are travelers just because they travel a lot. You’re only a travel lover when you can travel by yourself. Real travelers feel excitement upon having to meet new people.

Don’t stress over things you can’t change

We want things to go our way. To do that, we study until we drop, we work until there’s nothing left of us, we train until we’re in tip-top shape. But sadly, this never did anything but got us frustrated. We just have to accept that there are things that we can’t change.

I used to be so upset when our bus broke down. But ever since traveling became an integral part of my life, accidents become another opportunity to just chill and enjoy the moment.

The world isn’t so scary

Stepping out of our comfort zone has always been scary. Just think about all the wolves and lions that could devour us at any moment right after we step out of our gates. But when you’re a traveler, you’ll realize that all those scary characters we hear about are just simple people being themselves. They’re not really going to swallow us whole. They won’t be hurting one piece of our body. We just have to accept that people are what they are and that we just need to adapt.

Author Bio:

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William Bourn is one of the pillars of crazy essay, alongside his college peers. He functions as both writer and social media ambassador for their business.  He occasionally makes podcasts for students and newbie bloggers to better their writing. William continuously practices corporate social responsibility by donating to various foundations.

Guest Post- Things I’ve Realized Writing a Travel Blog

vw-camper-336606_1280~Being a travel blogger for a while now, there are a few things I’ve realized. And since this is a guest post, I thought this is the right time to write about it and share it with not just my readers, but T’s as well. This is my first guest post for any blog. So bear with me 😀

I am no travel expert, or some awesome writer, or a critic to lend any tips to my readers. But certainly I can share my experience of blogging for 6 months now and the things I have learnt during the process. I love travelling, cooking and eating a lot and the blog shows my love for it. The thing is, when one starts a blog, he or she is extremely enthusiastic with writing and sharing almost everything they love. Even I went overboard few times hehe 😀 I know the blog is an expression of your passion and being, but try not to go overboard and post a lot of stuff in succession with almost no time gaps. It divides the reader’s attention to your work and each individual post might not get the attention it deserves. Draft the posts for future and click the publish button when it is the time.

So I made a rough post calendar. Didn’t publish it or anything. But I had it framed out in my mind with few ideas written in a diary. That brings me to my another point. Have your ideas framed out beforehand to stick with your calendar. Of course there are no rules or anything, still jotting down the ideas helps you when it’s the time to write something. All this – making a calendar, and jotting down post ideas helps you build a writing discipline, polishes your writing skills with time, helps you explore and generate new ideas and yes, keeps your set of readers intact. Remember, consistency is the key.

When I started my blog, I had my family and friends read it out even if they wanted to or not haha 😀 ohh everyone does that :p So the thing to remember here is that do not take their praise seriously. Some of it is genuine, some is not. Oh come on! They love you and cannot hurt you. So do make them read it and ask to even share it with others.

Promotions 😀 ohh yeah!!

Keep up with the work, let the blog grow with time, and then analyze if it is generating any buzz. You will know what to do then. Have some goals for your blog. Mine is to be consistent, and post high quality material even if it is one post a week. So frame out your own goals and aims to make your blog better. Also, try making it visually appealing as well. I know some of you don’t wanna confirm to rules, and just pour out what your heart says. I do that too. But then again if you want more readers, do add a picture or two. Any person would love few pictures while reading a piece. Make your blog what you would love to read and see in a blog.

These are some pointers I think are good to make your blog and readers grow. Then again, it is your choice what to do in the end. For me, blogging is expressing and sharing what I love with the world. And have my own identity. I love it when people ask me about my blog. And you should be too. Do what suits you the best and you can add on these pointers if you wanna find your own niche.

P.S I blurted my heart out with no proofreading whatsoever. Advice from the heart 🙂

~Upasana

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Guest Post by: Adrea Kore-Erotic Poetry Guru xo

I am so honored to have the lovely Miss Adrea Kore as a guest blogger today! Adrea is from Melbourne, Australia and writes the most incredible erotic poetry. What a treat to have my tiny little blog spiced up by this wonderful gal xox Please check her out: http://koredesires.wordpress.com/ you won’t be disappointed 😀

Thank you Adrea! ~T

Suspense

Naked, I find myself
here, at both pinnacle
and this most fragile of places
Neither here nor there
A world of possibilities
Unfolding giddily beneath
A bare-legged refusal
to run for safety;
to choose one side in haste, foregoing
sweet knowledge of the other
I stand strong in the liminal heights,
A wide-eyed heart
Invoking divine transition

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Girl on bridge

 

© Adrea Kore  2013

Adrea Kore is a writer/performer, residing in Melbourne, Australia. A former theatre director and artist’s model, she engages strongly with themes of ‘the feminine’, publishing both fiction and non-fiction. She’s featured in American erotic anthology Dirty Little Numbers by Go Deeper Press, and her story Peek Hour can be found in the fresh-off-the-press release of “Best Of” anthology Mammoth Book of Best New Erotica 13. Adrea  is fascinated by creative process, and the place where words emerge from our most physical of experiences. Her erotica short stories feature on Erotica Writers and Readers’ (ERWA) online gallery,  and in Australian anthology A Storytelling of Ravens.

Currently working on her first collection of themed short erotica stories, and ignoring her novella draft, Adrea has just discovered blogging. Visit her at Kore Desires.

Guest Post by: All Curves West – Tiny Curves too!! :-)

~It is always a daunting idea to start-up a new business. Often it is not the business idea but the business practices that “fail”. Marketing, and for me, social media marketing, is one of the crucial aspects of winning the business game. One of my side projects, All Curves West, depends almost solely upon social media to grow or “succeed”.

In my opinion “social media” includes; blog networking using platforms like WordPress or Tumblr, social networking via Facebook & Twitter, business networking through Google Plus and Linkdin, and the more recent trend of photo networking using applications such as Instagram and Pintrest. Having a solid “online presence” can seem complicated when you see that big list of sites and applications. It comes down to having a plan, and being efficient. Social media can steal your entire life if you let it! But it doesn’t have to. I could spend a lot of time talking about exactly how to do that but for the purposes of this article I will leave it at that.

All Curves West is a little blog I have, these days my ability to keep it as up to date as I would like is struggling. But one way I keep it alive without too much time is by having my WordPress blog linked to my Facebook business page of the same name. It isn’t the same and I still deserve a good slap on the wrist for not practicing what I preach but it is still a great way to help grow your blog following.
To me the best part about having a Facebook page in addition to your blog is growing your “personality”.

Blogging is limited in that you can only present your own writing or the writing of your fellow bloggers. It doesn’t allow for the quick “shares” and “likes” that can let you show people what you are all about. My blog, All Curves West, is a fashion forward, body positive, journey sharing type of blog. Writing is great for me to share my journey with people in detail, but sharing pictures of fashion, or other pages allows a much more visual presentation of my interests and message. It is also a great way to save time in a busy week! A decent amount of social media might take three 2o minute sessions a week, whereas writing a solid post could take ALL week!

Getting followers to your blog is also a lot easier when you can get them to “like” your page and THEN get them to follow the blog by connecting the two. Don’t be afraid to ask people to like or share or follow you, not all the time, obviously, but once a month is certainly reasonable! Confidence is attractive to people whether it be in marketing or dating, so let people know you have a great thing happening over here and ask them to come take a look! Once they have liked or followed you, it is your job to keep them there! Maybe next time I can talk about that!

Erin 2Since I am here I am going to take a little minute and tell you about All Curves West (ACW)! It has taken a long time to figure out my message in a really tangible way. In a word, All Curves West is about inclusion. My journey of self love has jumped forward since I found the power of inclusion. I feel like the very best way to teach love is through love. I had to truly find the ability to let go of comparison. I discovered that very few of us, whether our curves be big or small, possess true self-love. I learned that so many of the people who possessed the body I so desired, did not possess the confidence or self worth that I had spent my whole life assuming came with it! And that is what pushed me to start writing and create All Curves West.

My message is acceptance: all the curves, all the love, all the time. My motto is: Present Choice: Happiness – because you have to be present, it IS always a choice, and ALWAYS choose happiness.

I have a serious love for fashion, fashion art, modeling & photography. My Facebook page allows me to showcase that aspect of ACW as well as draw attention to artists/designers/businesses/events/people who fall in line with my message. My blog gives me a place explore my journey through words.
There is so much more to All Curves West and I could spend so much more time on everything I said above but for now I leave you with this thought courtesy of a very special tarot card that I pulled almost every single week for two years at the beginning of my yoga-for-curvy-ladies practice…(paraphrased)!

~Is the bamboo less mighty than the oak? Is the oak less beautiful than the bamboo? Comparison is not the answer. We all have our strengths and our beauty.~

All Curves West!

Erin