Guest Post- Stop Trying to Find Work-Life Balance. Start Creating It.

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~Today’s Guest Post is courtesy of Career Coach and fellow Blogger, Julie Morris. Julie has graciously written a lovely article about stress management advice that I know my readers will love. She has a wonderful outlook on living life to the fullest and I am honored to feature such a great post on my tiny blog. Thank you, Julie! 🙂

Enjoy!

The modern business world pressures us to be workaholics while glamorizing the habit of staying busy as if it were an art form. Perhaps this is why so many entrepreneurs, freelancers and businesses professionals find themselves craving work-life balance. Some people have started to believe that work-life balance in modern society is actually just a myth. Speaking from experience, it’s very possible to achieve a healthy balance between work and personal time; we’ve just been going about it all wrong. As a society, we talk about “finding” work-life balance as if all we have to do is walk into a room and simply look for it. Instead of expecting the work-life balance to be an effortless task, we must actively change habits and shift priorities to build the happy, fulfilling life we’ve dreamed of.

If your New Year’s Resolution is to find more balance, here are some changes you can make today to start working towards your goal:

Unplug

I know, I know, you’ve heard it so many times before. Here’s why…

Unplugging (turning off the computer and putting down your phone) is important for us to do on a regular basis. In addition to improving work-life balance, studies have shown it has actual health benefits for the human body. Give your brain a rest, reduce stress and anxiety, sleep better, and get back to enjoying the moment.

Schedule It
If you’re having trouble finding time to unplug, try scheduling it on your calendar like you would for any other task. This holds true for ME time, exercise, self-care time, or any activities that will make you feel less stressed about work.

Start Small
When you first start to prioritize yourself, it can feel strange. If you’re finding it difficult or even shameful to pull yourself away from important projects and deadlines for the sake of reading a book or relaxing with friends, here’s a tip that might help. Start small. Instead of scheduling a whole hour for self-care time, try blocking off a smaller window of time. The length of time is up to you. What feels realistic to you today? Even if you start with just five minutes per day, you will eventually start to feel the benefits – and you can always work your way up from there.

Shift Your Perspective
Instead of beating yourself up for the things you didn’t accomplish by the end of the day, start re-training your brain to focus on positivity. Business coach and former Google employee Jenny Blake offers the following advice: At the end of your workday, create a list of everything you did accomplish that day, even if it was only chipping away at a much larger project.

Work-life balance isn’t something that can be found because it isn’t something that just magically happens. You have to prioritize it and work for it, just like anything else in life. It may feel strange scheduling time for yourself at first. You may even feel a little guilty not checking your work emails. Over time, however, you’ll start to find that you’re less burnt out and more productive at work because you’ve created some healthy boundaries and prioritized your own well-being. Optimizing your home for stress-free living wouldn’t hurt either. You get enough stress from work.

You certainly don’t need your place of living to add to that.

Julie Morris – juliemorris.org

Thursday Thoughts: How to be Happy in the Workplace :)

~Today I would like to share with you my oral presentation from the Business Writing course I just finished 🙂 I like to call it: Whistle While You Work

dancing-dave-minion-510835_1280How to be happy in the workplace.

Why am I qualified to give this presentation? Well, I am extremely happy ALL the time. I get very excited in my everyday life whether I’m just meeting with some friends or coming into class in the morning. I like to be happy. I’ve also left a lot of jobs because I wasn’t happy with them.

You know that feeling you get when you wake up in the morning and dread going to work? That’s usually the point when I start planning my escape route from that job. A change. If I don’t love it, I simply leave.

Now, how many of you see a grumpy or unhappy person everyday? I know I do. And just as a note here: No joke, sometimes your happiness literally pisses people off… excuse my language 😛 (yup I actually swore in my presentation). I actually had a former co-worker approach me one time when I was a Personal Trainer and say, “Tanya, you are WAY too happy all the time.”

What? How is this a bad thing? But, we see these grumpy people every day:

Bus drivers who don’t say anything or even look at you when you greet them, coffee baristas who glare when you order a difficult drink… or maybe even a boss who thinks the entire world revolves around them for some reason.  Yes, I have worked for people like that before and it is not fun.

So before I talk about my little secret to happiness, let’s look at Grumpiness and Unhappiness:

  • No one likes a Grumpy Gusthumb-440352_1280
  • When someone is grumpy it sucks!
  • Being unhappy is exhausting
  • When you are unhappy you are less attractive

Do you normally look at a grumpy person and think, “Oh yes, I want to be around you!“- No… well unless that’s what you’re into… (weird face)

Which brings me to my next point: So many people hate their jobs! And they are perfectly fine with that. OK so let’s ask ourselves:

  • How does it make us feel to encounter someone in a bad mood?- Lame
  • Can you tell when someone dislikes their job?- More than likely
  • What is it that drives us to stay in unhappy situations?- Money $$ is a big one

There is a huge difference between “Making a Living” and “Living” (this is where I had the entire class close their eyes to see what image came into their heads when stating each of these)

It’s no surprise a lot of people get these two things mixed up.

Some people actually think that making a living IS living. Well guess what?! It’s not.

Some people think the whole purpose of life is to just work until they are retired and buy things and stuff and raise a family. I mean yes these are all great things, but there is so much more to life than that.

There are so many ways to find Happiness 🙂

  1. First we must ask ourselves, “Why am I unhappy?”
  2. Then when we find the answer ei: a person, place or thing etc. we just simply get rid of it!
  3. You can also turn your frown upside downemotions-371238_1280
  4. Self affirmations LOVE YO SELF!!!
  5. Choose to be happier and less grumpy
  6. Learn to love your process

and if you’re still not happy at work, LEAVE!!!

You really don’t have to stay at the same job for your whole life. Especially if it makes you unhappy. Why would you want to do that? Aren’t we all deserving of something we enjoy doing?

So, do you want to know my secret to happiness??

LIVE!!youth-570881_1280

The meaning of life is to LIVE! Do what you love and LOVE what you do. If you don’t love what you are doing what’s the point? Life is way to short to be unhappy 😀 SMILE!!!!

So, in conclusion:

  • Grumpy people suck
  • Happiness is a choice we all have
  • AND we deserve to be in a happy place

All of us!! xo 🙂

So go out there into the big old world and find a job YOU ABSOLUTELY LOVE!!!

That’s what happiness is. It’s LOVE ❤ xoxoxoxoxox Do what you love and love what you do!

Thank you 🙂

(Cue happy slide) 😉