~Doing What We Have To Do~

~Sometimes doing what we love or doing what we want isn’t in the cards. Sometimes doing what we have to do is what we must do… right now. I came to this realization after finishing school in April.

I was completely broke. I hadn’t had a full-time job in over a year and moving into a more expensive living situation started eating up my savings.  I desperately wanted to start my business and I gave it a good try for about a month, but I decided I had to put my dreams on hold to make money. So that’s what I did all summer: I made money.

I haven’t been writing on my blog and I’ve gone silent on my social media accounts over the last few months. I needed a full-time job and that’s exactly what I got. I gave up most of my summer to work every day to try to push myself ahead once again. In just 3 months, I worked my way into a front desk manager position at my office after the previous manager walked out. I was suddenly it.

So I owned it.

I looked at my situation and said to myself, “Just do it!” I buckled down and worked my entire summer away. I took responsibility and proved myself worthy of the workload.

Starting a business is a lot of work. More work than I was willing to put in with the amount of money I had; which was next to nothing. I did the research and discovered I wasn’t ready at all. I didn’t have the time or the money and I knew right away it wasn’t going to work out. Which in the grander scheme of things is just fine with me. I don’t want to rush into something that I’m not ready for. Don’t get me wrong; I love writing and I still have every intention of starting my travel website, but only when the time is right.

My new job took up all of my energy. I was mentally drained after long days of training new people, working in a very busy office and picking up the pieces of the previous employees who had left a big mess behind. I had absolutely no mental capacity to sit down and write what I wanted to write. I only took two weeks to go have some summer fun with my boyfriend and that was the only time I had off. We did a mini road trip through the Kootenays, hit up Shambhala Music Festival and went camping beside a gorgeous waterfall beside a beautiful lake. It was pretty awesome!

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I chose to do what I had to do. Doing what we have to do is not always what we want to do, but I am happy with my decision. Life is full of choices and I chose to work full-time to better my money situation before starting something much bigger.

I’m still young. I still have so much time to do what I want 🙂 And so this minor setback is actually not a setback at all. It’s just a bit of a detour on my life long journey to get to where I want to be. I will still travel. I will still write. I will do what I want to do eventually when the time is right.

Right now I’m doing what I have to do and I’m ok with that. I like my job and the people who work in my office so working towards my dreams by putting them on hold for now is not such a bad thing.

It’s just what I have to do 🙂 Staying hopeful, keeping positive and still enjoying life. That’s what life is all about, right?!

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What Makes a Good Leader?

business-561388_1280Going through the motions of an intense business course has really opened my eyes to a lot of things I would have never thought of. Some of the most important points being made to our class seem so “common sense” and straight forward that it’s hard to think you actually have to be taught this kind of stuff.

Having problem solving abilities is obviously essential in business, but in a number of my past jobs I’ve seen the same patterns that create an unhealthy work environment. Positions of power can really drive a person to become arrogant and condescending. I think in many cases, managers or other authority figures can’t see this behavior in themselves so they so they continue behaving in an inappropriate way. Businesses strive on strong leadership, but what makes a good leader?

If a manager is friendly and sociable with staff does it make that manager vulnerable? Does passive aggressive behavior create tension? Can controlling tendencies be adjusted when a person has always been a certain way in situations?

You may recall the saying: “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks!” Is it true?

I’ve come across many problems like these on more than one occasion, and it seems to me that there are many important strategies and approaches being overlooked by influential people in business.

Why does control and power make people so… hungry?

By hungry I mean: power-hungry.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had great bosses as well, but for the most part my experience working for other people has not been ideal. Although I can understand the immense pride that comes along with having your own business, I believe a lot of people end up being trapped in that box with no windows.

To function as an effective manager you always have to think outside the box.

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Yesterday in my Business Administration course, we learned about culture in organizational structures and how culture is created. Culture is developed from the particular history that is uniquely tailored by each organization. Great leaders who pay attention to necessary detail  and build strong professional relationships succeed in the business world because they lead by example. There are various ways in which culture is created. Each company designs it’s own culture whether it be good or bad.

Good leaders create a good culture.

A great leader is motivating and inspiring. 🙂 The adaptable role model will always build on the effectiveness of their decision making while learning lessons along the way.

So, what do you look for in a leader? What kind of characteristics do you prefer when being delegated responsibility? Do you consider yourself a leader or more of a follower?

I’ve always considered myself to be a natural born leader so I guess that’s why this subject interests me so much. Developing ones self has been a key trait in my lifetime. I absolutely love learning about this kind of stuff. 😀finger-man-451211_1280

What are your thoughts? What do you think makes a good leader?

 

Thursday Thoughts: How to be Happy in the Workplace :)

~Today I would like to share with you my oral presentation from the Business Writing course I just finished 🙂 I like to call it: Whistle While You Work

dancing-dave-minion-510835_1280How to be happy in the workplace.

Why am I qualified to give this presentation? Well, I am extremely happy ALL the time. I get very excited in my everyday life whether I’m just meeting with some friends or coming into class in the morning. I like to be happy. I’ve also left a lot of jobs because I wasn’t happy with them.

You know that feeling you get when you wake up in the morning and dread going to work? That’s usually the point when I start planning my escape route from that job. A change. If I don’t love it, I simply leave.

Now, how many of you see a grumpy or unhappy person everyday? I know I do. And just as a note here: No joke, sometimes your happiness literally pisses people off… excuse my language 😛 (yup I actually swore in my presentation). I actually had a former co-worker approach me one time when I was a Personal Trainer and say, “Tanya, you are WAY too happy all the time.”

What? How is this a bad thing? But, we see these grumpy people every day:

Bus drivers who don’t say anything or even look at you when you greet them, coffee baristas who glare when you order a difficult drink… or maybe even a boss who thinks the entire world revolves around them for some reason.  Yes, I have worked for people like that before and it is not fun.

So before I talk about my little secret to happiness, let’s look at Grumpiness and Unhappiness:

  • No one likes a Grumpy Gusthumb-440352_1280
  • When someone is grumpy it sucks!
  • Being unhappy is exhausting
  • When you are unhappy you are less attractive

Do you normally look at a grumpy person and think, “Oh yes, I want to be around you!“- No… well unless that’s what you’re into… (weird face)

Which brings me to my next point: So many people hate their jobs! And they are perfectly fine with that. OK so let’s ask ourselves:

  • How does it make us feel to encounter someone in a bad mood?- Lame
  • Can you tell when someone dislikes their job?- More than likely
  • What is it that drives us to stay in unhappy situations?- Money $$ is a big one

There is a huge difference between “Making a Living” and “Living” (this is where I had the entire class close their eyes to see what image came into their heads when stating each of these)

It’s no surprise a lot of people get these two things mixed up.

Some people actually think that making a living IS living. Well guess what?! It’s not.

Some people think the whole purpose of life is to just work until they are retired and buy things and stuff and raise a family. I mean yes these are all great things, but there is so much more to life than that.

There are so many ways to find Happiness 🙂

  1. First we must ask ourselves, “Why am I unhappy?”
  2. Then when we find the answer ei: a person, place or thing etc. we just simply get rid of it!
  3. You can also turn your frown upside downemotions-371238_1280
  4. Self affirmations LOVE YO SELF!!!
  5. Choose to be happier and less grumpy
  6. Learn to love your process

and if you’re still not happy at work, LEAVE!!!

You really don’t have to stay at the same job for your whole life. Especially if it makes you unhappy. Why would you want to do that? Aren’t we all deserving of something we enjoy doing?

So, do you want to know my secret to happiness??

LIVE!!youth-570881_1280

The meaning of life is to LIVE! Do what you love and LOVE what you do. If you don’t love what you are doing what’s the point? Life is way to short to be unhappy 😀 SMILE!!!!

So, in conclusion:

  • Grumpy people suck
  • Happiness is a choice we all have
  • AND we deserve to be in a happy place

All of us!! xo 🙂

So go out there into the big old world and find a job YOU ABSOLUTELY LOVE!!!

That’s what happiness is. It’s LOVE ❤ xoxoxoxoxox Do what you love and love what you do!

Thank you 🙂

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